I’ve noticed this growing trend on social media. I know the algorithm is just trying to tailor itself towards what you click on/look at and how much time you spend looking at it, but what I’m finding really alarming is the amount of plastic surgery and “transformation” videos/reals/clips etc. that keep popping up. I know the algorithm is seeing my “engagement” as a good thing… But is it?
I end up putting my phone down thinking “one day that procedure will work so well on my face,” “I wonder if this new technique works now? Would it correct X?” Then I’m fixated. Should I talk to a professional? Is this something that might cure or fix X? Should I try this new product or that new hack? I stand in the mirror and just correct, correct, correct, correct. Even if I try and counter act it with more “authentic” and “real” accounts to follow, I still critique and criticize my own face and body. Endlessly.
And the gram just keeps showing me more.
Is it bad that I want to try and find a solution for some things that bother me? No, I don’t really think so. But it IS bad for me to think that there’s something wrong. That there’s something wrong and it needs to be FIXED. Every body and every face is made differently. Carries features differently. Connects joints, fat, movement, etc. differently. If I’m really honest and stop nit-picking, take a step back and try to look objectively? My mom is right, I don’t need whatever latest and great procedure I sent her. There’s nothing that needs to be “fixed.” There’s nothing even wrong.
I saw a post about normalizing real houses and homes, not these fancy-social influencers’ half paid-for brand-new renos or builds. It made me think of my face, my perception of my face and my body. No, it’s not perfectly curated to optimal “attractiveness”. My biggest hate is my dark circles and sunken eyes along with my middle love-pouch.
But here’s the truth, my skin has NEVER looked or felt better. The dark circles? I don’t think anyone has ever told me they legitimately notice them, especially with the concoction of skin care I use. And my body? Never been more in shape and in-tune with itself. Stronger then I thought I would be and determined to keep improving. THAT is the truth. No earthly fix is going to solve the fact that my body is NORMAL. Completely and totally normal. Better yet? I get to trust that the one who made me doesn’t think I’m ugly.
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
In fact, most of the bible instructs us not to put too much emphasis on external appearances or put much stock in people who make it their everything. We’re told it’s fleeting. What does it say about me if my top focus is looking better? If I let it consume almost every action and thought throughout the day?
It’s hard. Everything is in our faces comparing everything. Try this or do that. Talk to this professional, look at these results. So let’s change it. Let’s #normalizenormalfaces because they’re beautiful and they’re real. And they mean so much to the one who made them then anything we can do to them. Hopefully, I’ll start remembering that.